Does “the harder I practice, the luckier I get” work for you? If self-talk becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy – does yours invoke the Law of Attraction? And positively so?
Have you noticed how what you focus on is often what you get? Have you experienced any co-incidences or serendipity recently? Have there been some things that have come to pass that you just wonder: “how on earth…?” Can be quite scary sometimes, can’t it? Or have you sometimes allowed your mind to dwell on a worry or a fear and then realized that it actually came to pass?
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I recently spent a couple stimulating days at the annual conference of a favourite client, where I worked with them on developing stronger awareness and ability to leverage their “soft skills” for their ongoing success. Of course the conversation came to the awareness and application of some of these more “spiritual” concepts.
We spoke about the influence of the “self fulfilling prophecy” of what we believe, think and say coming to pass.
We spoke about “The Law of Attraction”, which I interpret to say that:
a) you need to define what you want,
b) “put it out there” that you want it
c) and then allow it to manifest by supporting it with all the positive and supportive “thinking vibes” that you can.
I spoke about your now being aware of the feel of the cloth of your clothing on your skin, and that before I mentioned that you weren’t consciously aware of that. That what your mind is aware of it notices and utilizes.
I related my story of the “blue Honda” I purchased, where while I waited for the two weeks delivery period until it was ready, I couldn’t believe how many I saw driving around all of a sudden. I hadn’t been aware of them before I ordered one, but having then brought their awareness into my consciousness, noticed and saw them everywhere. Can you perhaps remember that happening when last you bought a car? Amazing, isn’t it?
What Are You Mostly Thinking About?
We spoke of my blog Moving Away versus Moving Towards where I outlined how NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and personal development guru Chris Howard speaks of “perception is projection” and uses the example of snapping on a torch in a dark room and illuminating a particular corner and highlighting that while focused on pinpointing light on that corner, one can see little or nothing else in the rest of the room still in darkness. Let’s say that corner represents “scarcity”.
That is all we see, not knowing that perhaps in the opposite corner we could see “abundance”. In this example he is also simply but powerfully implying that what we focus on is what we get. It’s like a search engine. If we Google “wealth” we get over 100 million links talking about wealth, none of which say anything about poverty other than to draw an opposite or a comparison.
In The Left Brain And The Right Brain I speak about how much time we spend in our left brain processing facts and perceptions and having it unconsciously protecting our ego and from us “having a go so” as to prevent us from failure or from making a dill out of ourselves. How that incessant left brain mind chatter drowns out any space in which we could leverage the more wholesome and “big picture” approaches of our right brain – that sphere of our brain that also feeds our intuition.
We also spoke of my blog article Goosebumps where I related this physical phenomenon as a sign from our unconscious mind that something of great significance to our life or values is either happening to us or about to happen to us. I related that I have learned that whenever I experience goosebumps to simply stop and “listen” to them. What am I experiencing at this moment? Why is my body reacting like this? What is my intuition trying to tell me that I should be paying attention to? How many decisions have we made where in hindsight we realized that we should have “listened to our gut feel?”
While we are in the car metaphor I often suggest to my clients that the direction we focus our attention on also matters. I suggest to them that if the size of the car windscreen could represent the proportionate amount of time “looking forward“, then the rear view mirror might represent the amount of time we “look backwards”, so as to learn from but not dwell on. Those of you who have read “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle will understand then that the size of the rest of the interior of the car might represent the amount of time we should spend “in the present“.
And so it is with what you think about.
Dr. John DeMartini suggests: “what you think about and thank about, you bring about”. And I have learned that we should recognize this awareness as the catalyst that drives opportunity to manifest – that which we call “co-incidence”.
Does The Law of Attraction Really Work?
At breakfast one of our colleagues related a fascinating story to me, which he allowed me to share with you here to illustrate that beautifully. He explained how his wife had been teaching some very specialist subjects at a school for many many years that necessitated an inordinately long commute each day, and that for a while she had been talking about giving that up. However, she could not get past the “talking about it” stage.
(It reminded me of my story of the “dog on the nail”, where it complained repeatedly about the discomfort of lying on a nail, but that the discomfort was not strong enough to muster the energy of getting up and laying elsewhere)
She was concerned about finding a new job closer to home that required her specialist subjects and thus very afraid to make the decision. So they eventually discussed it and she chose to take the decision to resign, which she did.
Imagine the shock when the very next day she got a call from the principal of a local school around the corner that she knew and had been interested in joining, asking if she was available to join them to teach her specialist subjects. Unbelievable. But true. This really works, if you believe in it. Remember Indiana Jones having to step into the abyss?
There may well be a few of you struggling to relate to some of this “spiritual stuff”. May I recommend that you approach this with an open mind and just allow the possibilities to manifest?
I’m sure you have realized that if you dwell on the negative and what you don’t want, that it is likely to manifest so.
I’m sure you have also realized how preferable it is that you focus your mind on what you want and that your awareness, your attention, your self-talk and how what you talk about can have such a massive impact on what you achieve in the positive instead.
So why not consciously plan to try that this week and see what an unconscious level difference it could make? If you’d feel too exposed talking about it, why not try it just for yourself? Why not pick something that has been eluding you for a while and “have a go”?
And if you feel strongly enough about it, but unsure how to go about it, why not find a coach whom you can trust with the confidentiality this requires and leverage their support and holding you accountable to ‘do what it takes”? Remember that not all coaches are able or willing to work within this dimension, OK?
What if you did, and what if it made a difference – to you and to those around you? What if you could?